What Would You Like to Discuss?
28January 31, 2016 by philipbullitthughes
As we march through 2016, I think it’s important that I pause for a moment to ask an important question: What would you like to discuss?
We’ve touched on things like famous fictional heroes and villains, sex dating and love, what each Myers-Briggs type might do in an alternate universe, and many more. Some are fun and some are serious. And hopefully they’ve been at least mildly enlightening or entertaining.
But what I want to know is this: is there something that you’ve been dying to learn more about? Would you like me to be more specific? Maybe you’d like to know how an INTJ and ENFP might do in a dating relationship. Parenting! Would you like to discuss more fictional characters? Is there a type you want to know more about? There is a whole slew of topics to dive into, and I am happy to oblige. Please, if you have any ideas, let me know in the comments section below. I’ll do my best to respond to each one.
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I’d like to know about the different MBTI types as children! Specifically the INFP and INTP…My brother is an INTP, and I’ve heard that INTP kids can be very outgoing, even if they are more reserved as adults. Is that true?
This is a great topic for discussion. Thanks so much for your input. And yes, that is actually very true. It has to do with the Theory of Mind (which I suppose I could explain in a post!)
That said, I think childhood would be a wonderful discussion. 🙂
Similar to the topic of childhood would be changes people notice as they start to use/develop their tertiary functions & how it affects them.
Now that would be interesting. The topic of tertiary functions is one of the most difficult to understand. I know many people slip into them during times of stress. Great idea, and thank you!
Ooh, yes, I’ve always wanted to understand tertiary functions better.
It would be cool to see a Hogwarts houses personalities.
Great idea! That would be very fun. Thanks for the comment! 🙂
I would like to read more on the personality ENTJ. Especially an article on how they are in relationships. I am an INFP,and I always read this type is theoretically my best fit.
A great suggestion! Thanks so much for your input.
I read once that an INFJ under stress may act like an ISTP. I’d be interested to learn more about how tertiary functions affect our behavior under stress!
He y’ is something that I’d like to ask, by necessarily than for me, but for people who have trouble finding if are more intuitive or sensitive. Its would be nice to do exercises to guess whether such persons are sensor or intuitive, I do not know if on your blog this exists. (Aside from Pegasus and the dragon) Even at the end of the years, I still can’t decide if I’m intuitive or sensitive lol thanks in advance.
This is a good question! I will definitely think on this and try to come up with something. But my question in the meantime for you is this…If YOU had to pick, would you choose a Pegasus or Dragon?
I already did pegasus and dragon 😉
You have too many people to remember me Lol I tease ^ ^.
More seriously, I said Pegasus ^^
Thank you for reading my review.
Well, I actually knew you read the article already. But I was going to try to help you figure out if you’re an S or N!
So why would you choose Pegasus?
Good afternoon/evening philipbullitthughes,
To answer your question, I have chosen the Unicorn because in my opinion it is a mystical animal. spiritual, gentle, harmonious.
Does this answer your question?
You sound like an iNtuitive to me! A sensor would likely focus on the practical reasons for owning one while you focused on the abstract. 🙂
Okay, thank you 🙂
Would say what then sensory one? what the unicorn would serve it to make walks? lol
I have another question, can intuitions also like the direct things? For example, they often say that intuitions speak in a vague way, and personally I too much do not like this type of thing, I really want to be clear in my precision and that people are it also otherwise I find it difficult a bit to understand. Where then it is because of Si inferior who makes me think so? ^^
I hope not bother with all of its issues ^^ but hey, as I like to understand things and understand haha 🙂
Hi Kelly!
iNtuitives do speak in generalities much of the time. However, that doesn’t mean we’re vague. I am a Feeling iNtuitive and have been accused many times of being too direct. So I suppose to answer your question, Ns can be direct. And if you’re an NT (Thinker) you want to be as efficient as possible when speaking. NTs can seem even more direct than some Sensors in many cases.
And you’re not bothering me at all! Thanks so much for your comments.
Okay, thank you for your advice. The do not think a NT in the test mbti I’m more in the feeling that rational 🙂 I’m quite an emotional person. But after ennegramme can play a bit in our personality, did you ever think about that? Why not create an article on ennegramme / Mbti, up to you 🙂
I’m familiar with the enneagram! I’m a 2 wing 3. Pretty cool stuff. And thanks so much for the tip!
nice ah you know the énnegramme ^^
I’m still a beginner on énnegramme , but I think I’m 5w6 /6w5/ 5W4.
.The ennegramme 2 is very social and humanitarian , he wants to help others 🙂
Yes, I like the ennegramme! I need to learn more about it. I hear great things!
Hi Philip! I recently read your “The INTJ Female: Why Dating Can Be Challenging” & “The INTJ: Sex, Dating, and Love” articles and it got me thinking about how my family views my dating life (or rather lack thereof). They mean well, and I know they have my best interests at heart, but they often encourage me to change things about myself and my personality in order to snag a man. How would you recommend navigating those uncomfortable family interrogations about why I haven’t met someone yet and what I should do to “fix” that? I’ve attempted to explain many of the things you touched on in your articles regarding how I view dating, but they tend to disregard it telling me I’m being too picky, need to be more flirtatious, and they don’t want me to die alone. So I guess the topic I’m requesting is how to help others, particularly family, see things through the lens of how your mind works rather than filtering it through their own perspective first (any topic within that, really, not necessarily just dating). I know that’s a hard thing for many people to decouple, but if you have any suggestions on how to navigate that, it would certainly be beneficial.
I really enjoy reading your articles on here, by the way. I also recently bought Miraclist on Amazon and I can’t wait to read it! Hope you are well.
Hey Svab! So good to hear from you!
You know, I almost touched on how to deal with family members in this article but thought it would get too lengthy. So perhaps it does deserve its own post!
The short answer is first to be okay with who you are and how you function. The truth is, it’s very difficult to get other people to understand and treat you the way you want to be treated. Sending them articles like the ones I’ve written are helpful, but you can’t always rely on the article to make sense to them the way it does to you. But I know you, and you’ve got a big heart (just cuz you’re a T does not mean you do not have feelings.) It can really hurt when a loved one doesn’t understand you. So if I were in your shoes, I might sit whoever it is down and have that discussion about how what they’re saying makes you feel. Otherwise, coming up with answers in advance that YOU feel good about would work great, i.e. “There are few guys out there I feel compatible with based on my personality. I’d rather wait a few more years to get married rather than spend the rest of my life with someone I don’t feel connected to.”
Anyways, I do appreciate the feedback. It can be so annoying when people badger you like that. I am really sorry that happens to you. In truth, I wrote this article because this is a common problem. So you’re definitely not alone in that. I hope this helps! I’ll brainstorm and try to figure out a better response. 🙂
Thanks, Philip. 🙂 Enjoyed the Pygmalion Project article, btw.
Also, if you ever need additional material relating to fictional characters for the INTJ type, I would recommend Elinor Dashwood from Sense & Sensibility. When I read that book as a child, it really spoke to my soul. Not so much because of the story, but because of the character of Elinor. I had never read about a person that seem so aligned with myself before, and I felt a deep connection to her. To this day, it has remained my favorite book because of that and I have reread it many times. I suppose you could say that the book “gets me” in a way that not many others do. I always thought the sister and mother (Marianne and Mrs. Dashwood) were completely ridiculous and annoying when I was younger. Now considering them as an adult, though, I can appreciate their perspectives more objectively, although I would be lying if I said I didn’t still think they were silly.
Now, that is really interesting, because Jane Austen is an INTJ herself. She wrote Sense and Sensibility, right? I also know that Mr. Darcy is an INTJ. I love her novels, by the way. Superb writing. I understand why that might be your favorite book!
I am glad you enjoyed the article! I wrote it after our conversation. It’s not as in depth as I might have liked, but it’s a good look into the way we relate to each other, I think.
It was a good overview, certainly. To truly go into depth, it would be quite a long article; perhaps even a novel.
Yes, Jane Austen wrote Sense & Sensibility. I believe the fact that she was an INTJ plays a roll in how much I enjoy her writing. I may not always agree with her or even like her characters, but the writing style is just fantastic. Speaking of Mr. Darcy, I also really enjoy Pride & Prejudice, however I think Sense & Sensibility has a broader range of characters that are described in relative depth. It would be an interesting book to do a study on through the lens of MBTI types; at least I think it would.
I started reading Sense and Sensibility. I don’t remember why I put it down. Perhaps because I am a guy, haha! But really, I loved P&P so I bet I’d love S&S. I need to get back into it!
Thanks Svab!